I come out of [insert whatever significant life event here] with more perspective than before. Yes. But sometimes the event itself is so raw and so frightening that I can’t think of anything past that  moment. Time seems to stand still. It’s like this weird spot between life and death. One minute the unknown is so overwhelming and the next minute, I’m changed. The only problem I have is staying in that mindset. Not getting carried off to what becomes the next passage of time. Obviously my life can’t be constant, significant, life events….or could it?